Many women carry traumatic imprints of an age of injury, humiliation and degradation, in their wombs and bodies. These memories are reaffirmed not only as women experience objectification of their bodies, forceful sex, painful childbirth, but also through unfulfilled, incomplete orgasms. Most women choose to compromise their vast potential by remaining in a state of denial about their own sexual needs, wants and desires. Conditioned by society to feel insecure about their bodies and to compete with their sisters for available men, women feel disenfranchised and seldom realize their full sexual prowess.
How do we, as women, reclaim our sexual power?
The first step is to stop denying and to inform ourselves as to what has happened to women – how we have lost our power to patriarchal religions that deny both our sexuality and our spirituality. Since our sexuality and spirituality are inextricably connected, denying either of them denies our wholeness. Such denial leaves us fragmented beings searching for an identity which doesn’t lie in the inaccurate models of a male dominated, sexually repressive culture. The only models of women that the patriarchal religions have provided for both men and women are those of the virgin-mother or the whore.
In order to enshrine these inadequate and inaccurate models, the patriarchal religions have had to demonize women, considering our basic spiritual natures synonymous with sin. Also, they have attempted to eradicate feminine mystery religions. The sacred, mystical feminine spirituality and its religious expressions were banished by these patriarchs, leaving the woman reduced to ignorance and slavery. They were at the mercy of misogyny in all aspects of social life. Atrocities ordered by false priests were unbridled attempts to destroy the divine feminine. In its place we have been expected to identify with either the demonized whore or the sacred but asexual virgin-mother.
Having seen with clear eyes what has happened to us as women, we may come to better understand why we are still deeply conditioned because of what it still culturally means to be in a woman’s body. The second crucial step is to recognize that our sacred sexuality is what has been lost, and the experience of ourselves as the sacred embodiment of the divine feminine. We need to recognize our feminine power and its richness within ourselves, and redefine the male/female paradigm beyond the prevalent and limited dualistic view.
Life’s greatest adventure
My greatest teacher has been life. The constant thread has been my deep commitment to free my Self while healing the deep wound of abandonment I experienced as an orphan and later on as an adopted child. Romantic love has been an essential theme in my life. I kept opening and closing my heart, perpetuating my deep pattern of abandonment until I no longer needed to reenact it. Finally I could separate “my story” from who I truly am, that which has remained untouched.
I am not suggesting that all wounds need to be healed before one realizes this liberation because it is not required. What is important is that sufficient energy and attention are being liberated through the healing/ spiritual journey for consciousness to be free. Therefore I can’t emphasize enough how strongly I feel about healing emotional wounds as an essential part of the Tantric work.
How it all started
My first true initiation into Tantrism began at a nontraditional Tantric ashram, in India in the late seventies. A series of intense initiations there transformed my life forever. Intense catharsis started to release me from a very rigid, sexually oppressive and dysfunctional Catholic upbringing. Letting go of this extra psycho-emotional baggage prepared me to experience mahamudra samadhi, a deep merging with all that is, for the first time in my life. I then experienced my heart opening through sex with a partner and I felt totally ecstatic.
It dawned on me years before I really began working with women that men have never had proper sexual training and therefore needed to be trained. When the average man’s sexual performance is reduced to a few minutes of intercourse before he ejaculates – need we say how inhibiting it is to the woman – whose body from a tantric point of view is the source of unlimited sexual ecstasy? Is it so surprising that such a high rate of women complain about lack of sexual desire?
As I pursued Tantra, I continued healing the wounds left from my cultural and religious inheritance. I have increasingly felt a need for solidarity with other women, to reclaim our sisterhood and its inherent power. I have been strongly guided to gather women together in sacred circles where we would have a container to receive our common intention, our common determination, our common commitment to liberate, to heal, and to empower ourselves as we get to know who we are. We can co-create our visionof a balanced, holistic, ecstatic, sensual, artistic, loving, spiritual, creative, peaceful, exciting future, where we all can fully embrace and embody every aspect of ourselves as women.
From this place of our integrated power we welcome men who have made the choice to honor the feminine within and without. We are reclaiming our role according to the Tantric tradition. As healers, sacred women, mothers, lovers, and priestesses, we are consecrating the new paradigm of woman as the source and embodiment of the divine feminine.
Source: http://www.sacredsex secrets.com